Yesterday a client and I talked about the difference between finding a relationship (particularly being the “pursuer”) vs. staying in a relationship, tolerating intimacy, and not “sabotaging” relationship.
The skills between finding and staying in a relationship are different. Once we “have” someone and they start to get close to our hearts we become emotionally invested + vulnerable which can bring up an entirely different level of triggers too.
⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Being in healthy relationship isn’t something most of us have seen growing up and unless we consciously educate ourselves, heal our past wounds, and get support it can be difficult to have a healthy relationship or we can spend a lot of time fumbling around, missing potentially good opportunities, or settling for a relationship that is toxic.
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Cassandra Solano, LCSW
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