Disney Princess movies and Lifetime Christmas rom-coms got us all messed up in regards to our beliefs in live + romance.
I know some of you are going to see this and disagree. Maybe you do have a partner that anticipates every need And no matter what you do they accept it and stay. Amazing! But this isn’t (and maybe shouldn’t) be the norm.
Relationships take effort they don’t just grow on their own. After that sweet rush of hormones dies down (by about 18 months) that’s when the real relationship begins.
⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ You and your partner should have your own mind and differences if you’re two individuated people living in your truth. Sometimes this will lead to disagreement which can be worked through with love and respect.
And there’s definitely a list of things I could do where my husband wouldn’t stay with me, we have boundaries in our relationship! And we each have needs and expectations from each other to feel loved appreciated and safe.
So the truth is, real relationships, conscious relationships, aren’t always sexy. Actually having these very not sexy expectations and conversations help the sexiness!! But that’s another convo. . .
Cassandra Solano, LCSW
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