Updated: Jul 15
Have you experienced trauma and had friends or loved ones tell you something like "that wasn't so bad, or "everything happens for a reason" and are now questioning whether or not the trauma is even valid?
Stop right there.
Feel it was trauma.
Think it was trauma.
Remember it was trauma.
Believe it was trauma...
Even if no one validated you...
You are right.
Your feelings are valid. Your perception, even if you were a child, is true. Your beliefs about what happened to you, whether it was big "T" trauma or little "T" trauma, all matter.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ My clients were often invalidated in their experience growing up in dysfunctional families and take this same thinking into their adult romantic relationships. They are unsure of themselves, unclear in what to do in their relationship, and feel confused about what is true.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ They may have a partner adding to their confusion, always blaming them for problems in the relationship. Or they are plagued with self doubt, disconnected from their inner knowing/intuition because in childhood they had to learn to ignore their own truth to SURVIVE.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ This is why at the heart of my programs is helping womxn reconnect with their TRUTH, reclaim their INTUITION, gain CLARITY on their relationships so they can live AUTHENTICALLY.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ And if you know 2020 is your year and are ready to take big action towards healing your life, connect with me!
Cassandra Solano, LCSW
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