A personal note on my healing journey: I’ve been eating to cope with stress and trauma since I was in 5th grade. Coupled with actual food insecurity at that time when my parents were financially struggling and I was a free lunch kid and many meals were given to us for free from family who ran burger stands in town, to my mom having to go back to work since before I was born and I took on the responsibility of my younger siblings and the latch key life, food has always been my companion.
My adult life has been a roller coaster of crash diets, pills, weight watchers, et. Sometimes with success but then the inevitable gain again.
⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ I’m working with a coach now to address some core trauma at the center of my relationship with food and recognize this is a huge privilege.
I don’t have the answers but something I do know is that radical love and acceptance of my sized 18 body and all the ways it works to keep me safe and from being seen (this is where the past trauma comes in) is miraculous and I love my body for this.
So I show my body love with wearing undergarments that fit, with taking my time applying my lotions and oils after my showers, with pleasure and presence. Thanks for witnessing me today loves. I share this so you can see we’re all works in progress and the journey continues.
Cassandra Solano, LCSW
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