Updated: Jul 15, 2020
First off, CONGRATS if you’ve recently realized you need to set a boundary around something that you didn’t know needed a boundary before!
And chances are, it’s going to take a few attempts to set and hold a boundary. Because the way you’ve been has been a wired patterned response in your brain (probably connected to childhood trauma) and even when we state a boundary, keeping it can be next level challenging.
⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ You may be setting a boundary that will require another person to change behavior, a relationship or family system dynamic to shift. . . In other words, there’s more than just you having to share your boundary in a few sentences (as difficult as even THAT can be) happening with “boundary setting” and where having support and safe people to have your back and to help you stick to your boundaries and follow through with any stated consequences is KEY.
What difficulties have you had with boundaries or what questions do you have about setting boundaries?
Cassandra Solano, LCSW
PS: I’ll be offering complimentary consultations and starting new clients in August where I go over my 1:1 program, the investment, etc. if you’re interested I’ll be opening up spots to my newsletter subscribers first then on Instagram.
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