Updated: Jul 15, 2020
Attunement is how we are seen felt and heard, and the quality and consistency of our that Attunement shapes our nervous system, our attachment styles (link in bio for a free handout on attachment) and essentially a very thing about how we think, feel, live, and love.
If you feel you didn’t get the Attunement you needed as a child, don’t despair. Our nervous systems are “neuroplastic” meaning they can be reshaped through the duration of our lives towards healthy secure attachment.
⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ This is achieved through safe relationships. It took me years into my adult life to experience secure relationships with friends and in love. I also found support from spiritual advisors, therapists and coaches essential in my healing journey (even today) to help me heal and feel safe in my body and the world again.
This is why “self healing” can only get us so far. For a decade I struggled while attending yoga and meditation classes, reading spiritual books, etc. none of that was bad, but without safe relationships to help facilitate my healing it wasn’t enough.
Free self help groups, support groups, clergy (if you’re religious), coaches and therapists, even a mentor at work can provide Attunement and safety to help you heal. Please don’t struggle linger going at this alone if you don’t need to.
Cassandra Solano, LCSW
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Hi there! I'd love to gift you a free handout on a huge key to having healthy relationships: Attachment Styles. Your attachment style is just as important as your enneagram or horoscope in helping you understand yourself!