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When Healing Doesn't Feel Good

Updated: Jul 15, 2020

Healing is messy and it's often an up and down process early on. When we're waking up the body, allowing repressed feelings to come up, and talk about hard things with someone we trust, our nervous systems can go a little haywire.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Many of my clients report these symptoms about a month into our work. I remind them it's not a "bad" thing. Because of the safety and trust we've established, their attachment system is coming back online and sometimes when the brain gets this reboot the system gets a little wonky.⠀

Signs of healing from trauma can include:

Increased Anger, Frustration, Tantrums, Clumsiness, Forgetfulness, Irritability, Confusion, Grief, Mood Swings, and more.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ So keep on using your grounding and mindfulness coping skills if you're in this phase. Use your support system and communicate what's going on inside you, even if it doesn't make "sense" quite yet.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ The fact you feel "safe" enough to let these emotions be felt is a big sign you're on the path of healing. This isn't an excuse to become abusive or "unload" on people, but hopefully it can take some shame out of what you may be feeling today.

Finding support in healing from trauma is key, even one friend that feels safe is such an important first step to healing!⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀

With Compassion,

Cassandra Solano, LCSW

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